Why MEN don't have a CLUE and WOMEN always need more SHOES

By Allan and Barbara Pease

This book covers the differences as well as the indifferences between men and women and fully explains why each is behaving differently. Some of the behavior maybe tolerable while others, you really need this book as a guide as to why such behavior is executed. I find the book not only helpful in maintaining personal relationship but I also find it insightful as applied in a work area. Every part of the book is worth reading. There are some explicit graphic pictures on the book but that is only a presentation and justification by the authors as to what they are talking about.

A straightforward answer to the question that has been a title of this book:

Why men don’t have a clue? Men don’t have a clue because their brains were designed for mono–tracking of information and data which is opposite to women which is on a “multi–tracking” mode. Male brains were also programmed to absorb “direct” thoughts rather than an “indirect” one.

Why women always need more shoes? It is because unlike dress, shoes are “for all season.” It doesn’t matter whether you are small, medium or large, a shoe will always fit the scale.

Here are some “Humorous” excerpts from the book:

On page 2, “A women worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.”

On page 3, “Have you ever noticed that all women’s problem start with MEN?

MEN – opause

MEN – strual pain

MEN – tal illness

GUY – naecologist

HIS – terectomy

On page 4, “By the year 2020, it is estimated that 25% of all women in the Western world will be permanently single.”

On page 5, “Women evolved as child–bearers and nest–defenders and, and as a result, female brains became hardwired to nurture, nourish, love and care for the people in their lives. Men evolved with completely different job description – they were hunters, chasers, protectors, providers and problem–solvers. It makes sense that male and female brains are hardwired for different functions and priorities.

Consequently, men either don’t try all with relationships or they give up early, because they find way women think and act too complex. It sometimes seems all too hard and it’s easier to quit early than be seen as a failure. But the truth is that men want good, healthy, fulfilling relationships just as much as women. They simply assume that one day a perfect relationship will come along, without the need for prior study or preparation. Women regularly make the mistake of assuming that just because a man loves her, he must also understand her. But he usually doesn’t. We call each other the “opposite” sex for a good reason – we are opposite.”

On page 9, “When a women gives a personal development book to another woman, the woman who receives it is honored and thankful for a gift that may help her improve. A man, however, may feel insulted and feel the woman is saying he’s not good enough the way he is.”

On page 22, “Male brains are organized for MONO–TRACKING. They can only concentrate on one thing at a time. When a man opens a map, he turns the radio off.”

“One of the big problems for men is when MULTI–TRACKING happens during the nagging process. It’s all too much for him so he simply shuts off. This goes on to begin a vicious cycle of the nagger increasing her volume and the strength of her accusations or claim to entitlement while the victim retreats further behind his barrier, often to the point of putting physical distance between himself and the nagger.”

On page 23, “A clear sign that intimacy exists between the male boss and his secretary is when she begins to nag him about the things he hasn’t done.”

On page 24, “Sex sirens don’t usually nag, either. They have power too, although a different kind. They use their sexual power to get their own way with men. They could never be bothered nagging about dirty clothes on the floor – they drop their own clothes on the floor, and very sensually, too.”

On page 25, “Our research shows that women, who are goal–oriented, work more than 30 hours per week or who happily accept the monotonous and repetitive ritual of housework and motherhood, rarely nag.”

On page 27, “The trouble is that the woman is then tempted to treat her partner more as a naughty little boy than a capable man. His reaction, as a result, is to start behaving like one.”

On page 28, “Nagging is so often a clear signal that a communication problem exists between two people. Instead of addressing that problem, however, it’s usually far easier to pick on little trivial things and bait each other with those instead.”

On page 29, “If the woman in your life is nagging you, then SHE HAS SOMETHING TO TELL YOU and YOU’RE NOT LISTENING, so she’s going to keep on telling you until you do. The reason YOU ARE NOT LISTENING is because she’s not approaching you the right way. Women HABITUALLY approach their men the wrong way with INDIRECT talk.”

On page 43, “Consequently, for a woman to offer a man advice when he didn’t ask for it is seen by him as a statement that she feels he is INCOMPETENT because he can’t solve his own problems. A man sees asking for advice as a WEAKNESS because he feels he should be solving his problems himself and this is why he will rarely talk about what is bothering him.”

On page 44, “Herein lies the problem for most COUPLES – at the end of the day SHE usually wants to talk about the events in her day and to share her feelings, but HE thinks she is giving him her problems to fix and starts to offer solutions. SHE gets upset because HE won’t listen to her talking, and he becomes angry because she won’t accept his solutions.”

On page 51, “Firstly, having a solution–oriented, problem solving brain, HE is interested in getting to the bottom line as quickly as possible. By flicking through the channels, he can analyze the problems in each programme and consider the solution needed. Secondly, men like to forget about their own problems by looking at someone else’s, which explains why six times as many MEN watch the TV evening news bulleting as WOMEN. Since his mind can only do one thing at a time, by looking at other people’s problems and not feeling responsible for them, he can forget about HIS OWN WORRIES. It therefore becomes a form of stress relief, just like surfing the internet, working on his car, watering the garden, working out in the gym or, OFTEN HIS FAVORITE, having sex. As long as a man concentrates on one thing, he’s always able to forget his own troubles, and feel good about himself.”

On page 52, “Silence from a man doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her. It means he wants QUIET time.”

On page 53, “The most plausible explanation for DIRECTION–SENSING is that MEN have a higher concentration of IRON in the right hemisphere which allows them to feel magnetic NORTH. This is the same skill a man uses to find his way back to his seat at a sport match, relocate his car in a multi–storey car park and return to a location he’s only been to once before.”

On page 54, “Why does it take 4 million sperm to find and fertilized an egg? Not one wants to ask for directions.”(On why men don’t want to ask for direction)

On page 55, “Yet the practice of going to the toilet in groups still persists for women. A man will never be heard to say, “Hey Fred, I’m going to the toilet….would you like to come?”

On page 56, “Women should understand that sometimes a man’s PENIS has a MIND of its own. A man can go into a toilet cubicle (because all the urinals are being used), take perfect aim at the toilet, and his PENIS will still manage to pee all over the roll of toilet paper, down his left pant leg, and to his shoe. I’m telling you, John Thomas can’t be trusted.

On page 58, “Dr. David Lewis found the stress men experience while Christmas shopping ranks with the kind of stress experienced by a police officer dealing with an angry mob in a riot. For most women, on the other hand, shopping is a much– loved form of stress relief.”

On page 59, “A woman will dress carefully according to her weather, the season, fashion, her own colouring, where she’s going, how she feels about herself that day, who she’s seeing, what she’ll be doing. A man merely performs the SNIFF TEST on a piece of clothing he’s left lying over the arm of a chair.”

On page 60, “To many women, it seems as if men are hardwired to buy UGLY clothes for themselves and this is not far from the truth. For at least a hundred thousand years, WOMEN dressed TO ATTRACT while MEN have dressed TO FRIGHTEN away their enemies.”

On page 62, “At the top of the list of men’s habits women won’t tolerate are nose– picking, burping, body odour, wearing ancient underwear and crotch scratching. But number one on her list is farting.”

On page 68, “Laughing and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the blood stream. An endorphin is a chemical that has a similar composition to morphine and heroin, and has a tranquilizing effect on the body while, at the same time, building the immune system. This explains why happy people rarely got sick and miserable people who complain a lot often seem to fall ill.”

On page 69, “Laughter anaesthetizes the body, builds the immune system, defends against illness and disease, aids memory, teaches more efficiently and extends life. Humor heals. Research around the world has now shown how the positive effects of laughing, with release of the body’s own painkillers, strengthen the immune system. After laughter, the pulse rate steadies, breathing deepens, arteries dilate and the muscles relax.”

On page 71, “Women’s brains are hardwired to nurture and mother others, particularly their sons. They pick up after their son, cook his favorite meals, iron his clothes, give him money and protect him from the trials of life. As a consequence, many boys reach manhood with few domestic skills and abilities, and little understanding of how to make relationships work with women.”

On page 72, “…men did not evolve as nest–defenders and general tidiness is not something which comes naturally to them.”

On page 75, “There are times when people cry as a direct response from the heart, but MANY TIMES they cry as a way of manipulating other’s emotions.”

On page 80, “Emotional blackmail is where a person who is emotionally close to you subtly threatens to punish you or threatens or implies that you will suffer if you don’t comply with what they want. They know your deepest secrets and vulnerabilities and use this intimate knowledge to get you obey. Whatever strengths or weakness you have, the blackmailer will use them against you.”

On page 91, “Men are not used to dealing with their emotions and have little idea about how to deal with emotional women.”

On page 94, “Emotional blackmail destroys a victim’s self–image. If they continue to yield to the blackmailer, they will eventually lose their self–confidence and forever be robbed of the ability to assert themselves.”

“Blackmailers are usually just bullies. They have a poor self–image and can’t handle rejection. They lack the self–confidence to discuss their situation and consider the options, and are desperately frightened of losing what they already have. They’ll usually accuse their victims of being selfish, uncaring or self–centered – all the qualities THEY THEMSELVES POSSESS. In many ways, they are like naughty children. They make their demand and, if it is not satisfied immediately, throw a tantrum. Every time a parent gives in to a tantrum, they are sowing the seeds of an emotional blackmailer.”

On page 95, “Without your consent, the blackmailer feels powerless. The only way to lose your power is to show weakness. Don’t plead with them not to be so difficult and don’t accept any blame for the situation.”

On page 98, “When you surrender to the emotional blackmailer’s initial threats, an unpleasant cycle may develop that will become progressively more difficult to stop. The blackmailer could eventually ruin the victim, emotionally, psychologically and financially.”

On page 106, “As most women know, men have ALWAYS BELIEVED that size matters.” For women, it’s not size that matters, it’s FREQUENCY.”

On page 124, “For almost all of human existence, males have been POLYGAMOUS for survival reasons. Men were always in SHORT SUPPLY because many were killed while hunting or fighting, so it made perfect sense for their survivors to adopt the widowed females into their harems. This would also give the men a greater opportunity to pass on their genes.”

On page 125, “Most men will avoid committing to a relationship as they feel a woman will take away their freedom and they will become weak and powerless.”

On page 126, “What women expect in return is love, devotion and loyalty. The LAST thing on their mind is taking away a man’s freedom.”

On page 127, “MEN see being direct as a SIGN of RESPECT so, if a woman wants a commitment, she should ASK FOR IT, rather than just EXPECT it.”

On page 130, “A woman should avoid any approach to a man that will make him feel HE’S WRONG. Instead, she should talk about how she feels, as opposed to HOW WRONG HE IS.”

On page 132, “Because of the spatial arrangement of the male brain, men and boys become addicted to anything that has buttons, a motor or moving parts, makes sounds, has flashing lights and runs on batteries.”

On page 134, “There’s a lesson in this: always buy a man a spatially–related toy as present. Never give him flowers or a nice card; they won’t mean a thing to him.”

On page 146, “Many mothers RUIN their sons for the NEXT WOMEN in their lives. They mother them, cook, clean, wash and iron for them. They believe they are showing their sons love with these acts, but they are ACTUALLY causing problems for their sons in later life when they develop relationships with women. The sons, in the end, find it hard to do the things their mothers DID FOR THEM.”

On page 164, “Silence is used as a form of punishment and is an effective tactic when used on other women. This tactic doesn’t work on men – men feel the added “peace and quiet” is a bonus.”

On page 165, “If a woman wants to punish a man, the easiest way is to talk to him non–stop and keep changing the subject.”

On page 168, “Both men and women EXAGGERATE. The difference is that men exaggerate FACTS & DATA while WOMEN exaggerate EMOTIONS and FEELINGS.”

On page 169, “For a MAN, a woman’s exaggeration can be FRUSTRATING because his brains relies on FACTS and DATA for understanding and he DECODES words literally.”

On page 173, “Women’s indirect speech has a purpose – it builds relationships and rapport with others by avoiding aggression, confrontation or discord. From an evolutionary point of view, being indirect allowed women to avoid disagreement with one another and made it easier to bond by not appearing to be dominant or aggressive. This approach fits perfectly into a woman’s overall approach to preserving harmony.”

On page 175, “A woman needs to understand that if a man doesn’t follow what she’s saying he’ll often pretend he understands rather than look like he’s stupid.”

On page 181, “A woman thinks when a man doesn’t talk much it means he mustn’t love her because, FOR HER, words are used to bond. A man thinks a woman talks too much and is trying to INTERROGATE him.”

“As nest–defenders of the human race, a WOMAN would make sure she had a close circle of friends who would look after her if the men didn’t return from hunting or fighting. HER group of friends was like her INSURANCE POLICY.

On page 197, “Women like OLDER men because they have more experience and greater access to resources.”

On page 198, “Attractive people get better jobs, higher pay, are more believed and are allowed to break rules MORE OFTEN than their less attractive counterparts. BILL CLINTON proves it.”

On page 200, “It’s important to understand that a woman’s body has evolved as a permanent, PORTABLE sexual signaling system, which is purpose – built to attract male attention.”

On page 201, “Most men prefer a heavier woman to a leaner one because additional fat is an aid to successful bread–feeding. Few women know that one of the world’s greatest sex symbols, MARILY MONROE, was a size 16 and had very beefy legs. As far as men are concerned, no undernourished waif could ever become a real sex symbol.

On page 205, “Most men prefer women with rounded, thicker legs over those with thinner, muscular legs, because additional fat highlights the sex difference between male female legs and is an indicator of better lactation.”

On page 213, “And for a woman’s face to be universally classified as “pretty” the formula is clear – it must be childlike.”

On page 214, “Zoologist believes a woman’s lips evolved as a MIRROR of her GENITALS because they are the same size and thickness and, in an aroused sexual state, both expand as they fill with blood.”

On page 215, “the length of women’s earlobes has been taken as an indicator of her sensuality…” “the longer a woman’s earrings dangle, the higher male respondents rate her sensuality.”

On page 217, “Men are more attracted to a woman who wears natural looking make –up than one who looks AS IF she applied it with a brick–layer’s trowel.”

On page 219, “a woman should wear LONG HAIR when she wants to attract men, and wear it short or keep it up for business meetings.”

Also on page 219, “Looking at pornography is almost entirely a male activity, with 99% of pornographic websites on the Internet aimed at men and most images of naked men are aimed at gay men.”

On page 221, “The ONLY fashion shows many MEN will actively enjoy are swimsuit parades.”

On page 224, “It is important, however, for everyone to understand that cosmetic surgery won’t make you a better person, make you more loved or even take away your problems in life. Correspondingly, anyone who judges you by your appearance has a low self–image problem themselves, and is not the kind of person you want to be associated with.”

On page 226, “Your grandmother may have said, “People should never judged a book by its cover” but the reality is: they do.”

On page 235, “But beware of not making your appearance too perfect, because women may assume its contrived or that you’re too self–obsessed, which is a big turn–off for most women. They don’t want a man who is egotistical. No woman wants TO COMPETE for the MIRROR with her partner.”

On page 239, “Female sex appeal is a sophisticated, complex process, but male physical sex appeal is much more basic and straightforward.”

On page 240, “A study in Scotland found that the kind of male face a woman finds ATTRACTIVE can differ depending on where she is IN HER CYCLE. If she is OVULATING, she’s attracted to men with RUGGED, MASCULINE features. If she’s MENSTRUATING, she is more likely to be attracted to a man with scissors shoved in his head.”

On page 242, “The V–shape also appeals to a woman because it’s the OPPOSITE of what she is; she has an INVERTED V–SHAPE. Wherever, she has curves and softness, a man’s body usually has angles and firmness and its difference which can prove so attractive.”

On page 243, “Women are certainly attracted to a well–defined male upper body but most dislike the “muscle men” body–builder look because they feel such a man is likely to be far more interested in his own beauty than in hers.”

On page 245, “The secret is that a TIGHT, MUSCULAR REAR is necessary to make the strong forward thrusting motion during sex.” “….when a woman pats a man’s rear; she’s actually encouraging him to have an ERECTION.”

On page 246, “bald–headed men are usually more aggressive and hornier than their hairy–headed brothers, so baldness becomes a super–male signal.”

On page 248, “What has been found, however, is that a man’s nose expands with blood during sexual arousal and increases in temperature by up to six degrees, just like his penis.”

On page 250, “For thousands of years the length of a man’s penis has been associated with perceived power and prowess as a lover, but the power is more in the mind than in the actual organ”…”The reality is that a man with a

THREE–INCH erection can deliver a more ACCURATE service than a man with a SEVEN–INCHER, as the shorter one can ACCURATELY hit the right spots.”

On page 251, “When a man sees a NAKED WOMAN, he becomes dumbstruck. When a woman sees a NAKED MAN, she usually burst into LAUGHTER.”

On page 255, “Even the WOMEN who are self–sufficient and financially independent are attracted to the man who stacks up as good protector and provider.”

On page 262, “There are four basic types of LIES – the WHITE lies, the BENEFICIAL lies, the MALICIOUS lies and the DECEPTIVE lies.”

On page 263, “It’s the Deceptive lie that is the dangerous one because the liar INTENDS to harm or disadvantage the victim for their own benefit.”

On page 264, “Malicious lies, or rumor–mongering, are often used as weapons in competitive situations. Malicious liars are set out to destroy the character and reputations of their victims, usually with devastating and lasting results.”

On page 267, “A woman will LIE to make YOU feel good. A man will LIE to make himself LOOK GOOD.”

On page 268, “The evidence is clear – women lie just as much as men, they simply lie DIFFERENTLY. Because of women’s super–awareness of body language and voice signals, men get caught far more often, which makes it seem like men lie more. They don’t. They just keep getting caught.”

On page 270, “Most men know how difficult it is to tell even the smallest lie to a woman, face–to–face, without getting caught. If a man must lie to her, he’d do much better over the telephone. Most women have less difficulty lying straight to a man’s face – and they usually get away with it.”

On page 286, “it’s interesting to note that a man’s penis also swells during a lie. So if you’re not sure whether a man is lying or not, PULL his PANTS down.”

On page 299, “Men value accomplishments, women value relationships.”

On page 325, “Clothes shopping are often a negative or disappointing experience for women because most things won’t fit, they look bad, are too expensive or highlight a woman’s liabilities. SHOES don’t fit into these categories because women don’t have to diet to fit into shoes – you ONLY have to know your size.”

How To Make Love Like a Pornstar: A Cautionary Tale

By Jenna Jameson (with Neil Strauss)

You may mistake the title as a sort of a Kama Sutra or sort of a sex instruction guide but the content of this is actually an autobiography.

This is the autobiography of Jenna Jameson.

Jenna is a porn star. You may have seen her in one of your dad’s or brother’s collection of smut videos.

If I can translate this book to a movie, I can say that this is “Showgirls” meets “Gia Carangi” meets “Coyote Ugly.” If you have seen all this three movies, you got all of it in one book.

I like people whose life is colorful, whose life has been dirty, whose life has been shameful, and whose life has not been a “fairy tale” or “Cinderella” and yet was able to manage to build a reputation. That for me is inspiring.

Here are some of my “favorite” expressions from the book:

On page 7, “There comes a moment in every life when a choice must be made between right and wrong, between good and evil, between light and darkness. These decisions are made in and instant, BUT WITH REPERCUSSIONS that last a LIFETIME. My troubles began the day I chose the DARKNESS…”

On page 13, “Now I know that if you’re dating somebody TO IMPROVE HIM, you’re not really in a love relationship. You’re just being a nurse. The simple truth, and the hardest thing most women ever learn, is that what you see is what you get.”

On page 34, “It’s funny, but as soon as you stop thinking – or trying to think – all of your best ideas come to you. When you don’t focus on a problem, your subconscious will solve it for you. And that’s what happened.”

On page 36, “I represented money leaving their pockets.”

On page 42, “A strip club has its own CASTE SYSTEM in the locker room: the amount of private space a girl has, the closer she is to the bathroom, the more lights she has in her changing area all denote her rank. The top girls don’t even have to go on stage because they are so busy giving private dances.”

“Every night, I would go home and think about what I had done wrong, what I could have done better, what new idea I could try to drive a guy so crazy that he would run to the cash machine to get more money to pay me.”

On page 43, “What you can’t fix, you feature.”

On page 46, “I want to keep my two lives separate: to be a MOUSE during the day and a SHARK at night.”

On page 48, “Strippers can be vicious. The mentality is that if these guys are going to VICTIMIZE us, we’re going to totally victimize them right back. It seemed like a fair exchange. And it was character building: I was finally learning to take control of people instead of being so passive in social situations.”

On page 49, “They say that MONEY CAN’T BUY HAPPINESS, but that is an OVERSIMPLIFICATION. It actually depends on how you earn your money. If you’re juggling high–stress investments or managing scores of employees or deluged with phone calls or hiding something from the authorities, LIFE IS NO FUN. But if you can walk into a room, lead to a bunch of guys, and then leave with thousands of dollars in cash in your pocket and no obligation to anyone – not even an obligation to show up to work the next day – LIFE IS GOOD.”

On page 60, “Often people make the mistake of thinking that when others open up to them, they are looking for advice. But actually, they’ve heard the same advice hundreds of time and never acted on it. Logically, they know the advice is right, but emotionally they can’t tear themselves away from their set patterns. And emotions always overpower thoughts.”

On page 70, “People often say that the world would be so much better if it were run by WOMEN. But women have as MANY FAULTS AS MEN. Their faults are just different. So the truth is that the world would not be better if it were run by a woman, it would be better if it were run by the right woman. When men race or fight, they are only striving to prove their MASCULINITY or protect their sense of pride. But women DO NOT COMPARTMENTALIZE in the same way. For the worst of our species, any other attractive female is seen as competition and a threat.”

On page 71, “It’s not real life in here. It’s a game, one big game of MIND FUCKING. If you’re somewhat in tune with other people and can pick up on what they are thinking and who they are by talking to them, then you can win. You may not be a manipulative person deep inside, but in here YOU MUST MANIPULATE. And you will learn that you can get anything you want by maneuvering CORRECTLY.”

On page 78, “A relationship with a woman is much different than with man. There is a much stronger emotional connection between women; with a man, there is more of a power dynamic at work.”

On page 85, “Life has a funny way of surprising you. When you least expect something to happen, it does.”

On page 97, “They worked me for seven hours before letting me go. I swore that NEXT TIME I’d show them so much PINK they’d think the sun was setting.”

On page 131, “But then I looked at my own life: my career was on fast track, but my family and personal life were in the shitter. It seemed like a formula for the same king of tragic end. With such an unstable foundation, the larger an edifice of fame you build on it, the more unwieldy it becomes – until it just collapses. There were so many things I still needed to figure out for myself.”

On page 134, “The strange thing about BULLIES is that if you take their ABUSE, it never ends. But once you get the balls to stand up to them, they respect you and move on to a WEAKER TARGET. I never heard a bitchy word from her again. It was that easy – and that difficult.”

On page 173, “…he needed to NUMB himself because IT WAS EASIER to self–destruct than to face the truth.”

On page 182, “The DEVIL WAS MY OWN REFLECTION. I had made my living with my looks, and now they were gone: the beautiful blond hair, the full smiling face, big bedroom eyes. All the curves that men paid thousands of dollars just to look at HAD MELTED away to reveal a SKELETON IN RAGS.”

On page 316, “Whatever you go on to do in life, these films will be WITH YOU forever. Think about how it will affect your future relationships. And, God forbid, one day you are going to have to explain them to your children.”

On page 317, “The only thing I ask is that, if you do it, make sure you DO IT RIGHT. Don’t ever compromise yourself and don’t let anyone get the best of you. When you show up for work, know that you are an asset to them and not the other way around.”

On page 324, “I don’t know exactly why I drew the line there, but I’ve never doubted that decision once. If you come into this industry as a woman, you need to have a clearly defined set of guidelines and boundaries for yourself. That’s how you MAINTAIN YOUR SANITY. And every person I know has a different standard they hold themselves to.”

On page 325, “The job of PORN STAR is not a calling – or EVEN AN OPTION – for most women. However, if you make the right decisions and set the right boundaries for yourself, it can be a great living, because you’ll make a lot of money while doing very little work. And you’ll get more experience in front of the camera than any HOLLYWOOD actress. Though watching porn may seem degrading to some women, the fact is that it’s one of the few jobs for women where you can get to a certain level, look around, and FEEL SO POWERFUL, not just in the work environment but as a SEXUAL BEING.”

On page 328, “You will always be thought as a PORN STAR, even if you become a NUN afterward.”

On page 329, “They think that becoming a porn star means just fucking and doing drugs, but it’s a job. You punch the clock and you go to work.”

On page 333, “The great thing about becoming a porn star is that you don’t need a manager, an agent, or ANYONE TAKING GIANT PERCENTAGES of the money you’re earning. Never let anyone represent you or sign away anything to another person. Just be HEADSTRONG, stick to your guns, and have the ability to say NO, and you can keep it all.”

On page 395, “I want to be judged BY WHO I AM as a person, not by what happened to me. In fact, all the bad things have only contributed to my confidence and sense of self, because I survived them and became a better and stronger person for it.”

“Nearly everyone has some sort of SKELETON OF THEIR OWN or their family HIDDEN IN THE CLOSET. There are people who have suffered terrible abuse and grown up to be lawyers and doctors with stable families. Others suffered some small indignation and turned into violent sociopaths. Ultimately, what really matters is not just the experiences you have at a young age, but whether or not you are equipped – by your parents, by your genetics, by your education – to survive and deal with them.”

On page 402, “Success requires some familiarity with the fatal flow of NARCISSISM.”

On page 412, “My life is at a fucking peak,” I thought. “There’s nowhere to go from here but down.”

On page 455, “I didn’t realize that it’s a lot worse TO BE LONELY in the company of someone you supposedly love THAN IT IS to be lonely by YOURSELF.”

On page 481, “If mistakes and failures are really nothing but learning lessons, then I was well on my way to a Ph.D in men.”

On page 488, “I had big boobs to begin with, but in this industry, a girl has to be larger than life. The problem is that big implants are a magnet for creeps and a hindrance to most physical activity. That’s why you’ll never see retired porn stars playing golf.”

On page 491, “To be in this industry, you need to have strong grounding – because you are questioned by everyone, even yourself, on a daily basis. And if you fall into the trap and start hating WHO YOU ARE, then you are going to start taking it out on yourself and everyone around you.”

On page 540, “The only problem was that I WASN’T COMFORTABLE being COMFORTABLE. It wasn’t a feeling that had been part of my reality in the past.”

On page 548, “But love is NOT an INTELLECTUAL DECISION. You can’t look for it or hold on to it or run away from it. It comes and goes according to its own wild inclination, completely out of our control. All we can do is recognize it when we feel it, and try to enjoy it while it lasts – be it for a day or a lifetime. I was trying to fight it because I had taught myself, like most people, to fear love, because it makes me VULNERABLE.”

On page 551, “In myths about everyone from Hercules to the Buddha, rewards do not come without a struggle. There are labors to be undertaken, tests to be passed, hardships to overcome. Happy endings are the products of tragic beginnings.”

On page 554, “In CHILDHOOD, you think your parents are perfect; in ADOLESCENCE, you realize that they’re not; and ADULTHOOD, I realized, means finally accepting them for what they are, flawed human beings just like ourselves.”

On page 565, “I’ve forgiven, but I haven’t forgotten. There will always be a permanent scar and, though it hasn’t yet healed FULLY, at least it doesn’t hurt anymore.”

On page 571, “All the wrong choices I had made served only to ferry me to the right place.”

On page 577 (Epilogue), “I feel like I’ve allowed myself to let go of the pain, and embrace the fact that I’m not perfect. I certainly still strive to be the best at whatever I do, but I’m not shattered IF I FAIL. This has come from my own inner strength, not from looking to other people to fulfill me. I was always searching for someone to make it better, not realizing that someone was ME. I’m comfortable just where I am. And this time I’m not going to run away because I have a future that I never thought was possible for me to look forward to.”

Penis Survey

Based on the survey conducted by Richard Lynn of University of Ulster-Northern Ireland, below are list of countries with large penises:

Haiti

Colombia

Ecuador

Brazil

Venezuela

Congo

Lebanon

Sudan

Puerto Rico

Panama

Jamaica

Czech Republic

Ghana

Hungary

Peru

As researcher myself, the most important aspect of any research is the sampling technique and the size of the sample and as stated on the paper:

Sampling was done in 2010 in New York City of 800 adult men consisting of 200 from each group of Blacks, Hispanics, Whites and Asians.

So therefore, if there are 113 countries that were surveyed and there are 200 participants for each race that means that there is only an average of 2 representatives per country.

The paper also says that measurement is done by "self-assessment" and "objectively measured." If a participant knew from the start that he will be the "flag bearer" of his brothers, then he might as well put a bigger figure.

On the other hand, if it is "objectively measured," I wonder how they approach the subject? Would it be, "Excuse me, Sir! We are conducting a penis size survey of different nationalities, can I measure your penis?" Of the "large group" that was studied, only Haiti, Colombia, Ecuador, Brazil and Venezuela were "objectively measured."

Brazilian Jonas Sulzbach

Colombian Francisco Escobar

Ecuador Kevin Chica

Haitian Max Philisaire

Venezuelan Jean Franko

Venezuelan Lucio Saints

The survey was also done in New York City which means to say that those who are surveyed I suppose are "tourist." Linked here is the Summary of issued visa by the State Department by country including 2010 and of those figures, that doesn't necessarily means that those that were issued a visa is destined to New York City and if they are indeed present in New York City on the day of the study, did the researcher actually check their passports that they indeed belong to the country that was being studied?

Some interesting facts from the study though:

“Rushton's theory states that penis length is greatest in Negroids, intermediate in Caucasoids and smallest in Mongoloids.”

“An elaboration of Rushton's r-K theory is that race differences in penis length may have evolved as an adaptation to population differences in the propensity for infedility among human females. It has been proposed that longer penises may have evolved to displace semen left by other males from female reproductive tract. Thus, under conditions of double mating (sperm competition) the human penis enables males to substitute their semen from those of their rivals.”

Having had sex with Lebanese and Czech more than five times, I should say that the study is somehow true to some extent. 

Congolese Charles Dimoke

Ghanaian Gabriel Sey

Hungarian Alexei Gromoff

Jamaican Asafa Powell

Jamaican Usain Bolt

Lebanese Anthony Moufarej

Panamanian Larry Lawrence

Peruvian Cesar Quispe Estela 

Puerto Rican Fernando Alvarez

Sudanese Majak Daw

Czech Pavel Novotny

Why there are gay men?

 



The Penis Story

HIV Guide for Gay Men

Congratulations for viewing this article! That means that you are searching for something more meaningful more than what the flesh can offer.

The probability of HIV infection to anyone who has sexual contact is high.

But what is trending nowadays was that homosexual men or men who have sex with men (MSM) are proving to be a high risk. More than 50% of newly discovered cases of HIV come from homosexual male.

Almost 93% of people infected with HIV are acquired through sexual contact. Another means of acquiring HIV is by blood transfusion. And the last means of getting HIV is via "mother to child" transmission. Pregnant woman who are positive for HIV can transmit the virus to the child because for as we all know the umbilical cord serves as a bridge to nourish the child inside the mother's womb during pregnancy and this nutrients is being delivered through blood.

 

The most common sexual contact among homosexual men is through anal sex or oral sex. HIV can be transmitted via barebacking. Barebacking as we all know is having sex without condom. You might have seen a lot of porn where the actors don't use condoms but you have to remember that this videos are pre-casted ahead of time. Actors are being tested for HIV on the same day they are going to shot the film thus determining who is biologically clean is known ahead of time which is different with "consensus sex" among gay men. If you meet someone on a bar or an escort and you have this urge to hook up with him, you cannot oblige that person to undergo HIV test an hour before you have sex so you can do barebacking. By the time the result was released, the urge is no longer there. Second, the price for the most sensitive method of HIV testing is expensive for both parties. Thus, the safest way to practice safe sex is to use condom.

HIV cannot be transmitted through oral sex. You can suck that large dick down to your throat and devor it for one hour and you will not be contracted with HIV. The only risk you will have in doing oral sex is the transmission of microorganisms that thrives in buccal cavity such as gonnorhea, syphilis, herpes and chlamydia. Once you swallowed the semen of a person who is infected with this microorganism, you will surely get infected. These infections are curable unlike HIV but the economic and confidence impact it will bring you may not be. But how will you know if a person is infected with Gonorrhea or syphilis or herpes or Chlamydia? What you should know is the concept of normal first? If you are disease free, look at your penis and you know what a normal penis looks like. You've seen one also in a lot of porn you have watched as well. Pictures below are not normal thus when you take off your clothes and see that large cock hanging with blisters or with white pus in it, it would be safe to terminate the hook up! As the old adage says, "One moment of pleasure can be a lifetime pain."

 

 

 

 

I don't usually have sex with age group 18 to 35 because these are the age group which is at high risk of getting HIV infection. As men grows older, the libido also diminishes thus somehow those who are on their late 30's and above would be at lesser risk but again, you cannot conclude that they are not infected just by physical looks. Looks can be deceiving. It may be wise to know also what country they come from. A lot of country has figures where HIV infection is high thus, racism aside it would be wise not to hook up with them unless you are 99% affirmative that you will be safe.

 

 

 

 

If you are bottom, it feels pleasurable that your partner is squirting his warm semen inside you. You will feel it inside your body. The first time I'd experience bareback was with my Turkish boyfriend. We were living in a conservative country in the Middle East where before they renew your residency permit, you have to undergo HIV testing thus I allow him to bareback me. After that, he became my regular "fuck buddy" since I know he is safe. Those who assume a Top position will always had orgasm.

HIV or AIDS is actually a generic disease. What the virus is doing is to weaken your immune system. That's all it does. And if you have a weak immune system, you are then prone to infection. Those opportunistic infections are the one which will kill you. Take a look at the pictures below which are all product of a weak immune system. If you don't want to acquire one but still wanted an active sex life, condom would be your best friend.

There is no cure for HIV to date. One thin rubber will be your salvation at this time. Always practice safe sex.